When I was 16 my uncle told me that there are some people you are going to meet who are just going to suck you in like black holes and make you miserable. They attract other miserable people and they gang up or get married and travel around sucking in everyone’s efforts to make things better, and just exude constant negativity. You’re going to want to do something about this, he said, and it’s going to be hopeless. And you have to recognize that and accept that and you just have to avoid them. To make the effort to steer your life clear of the anger they bring to their lives, and to each other, and to everyone else for that matter.
But there are just so goddamn many black holes.